Written By : Monique Lapointe ~
When I was 17, I moved halfway across the world alone. It was the biggest and most intimidating decision of my life. But I was proud, and most of all— I was independent.
I think that from a very young age, I was always independent. I can remember going to kindergarten and all the other kids begging their moms to stay while I was asking mine to leave so I could do my own thing (like finger-painting, I guess?).
I’ve always liked the idea that I don’t need to depend on anyone else and that I can be responsible for myself. But what actually defines independence in a woman?
Thanks to our wonderful readers, we have the answers. 88% of our readers believe that being in a relationship, living with a roommate or family and asking for help doesn’t make you less independent— although some of us may feel reliant in these circumstances
ON A SCALE OF 1-10 (1 BEING RELIANT AND 1O BEING INDEPENDENT) OUR READERS HAD AN AVERAGE SCORE OF 8.
“ A INDEPENDENT WOMEN IS SOMEONE THAT CAN MAKE DECISION ON HER OWN. THAT WILL TRY TO SOLVE HER PROBLEMS ON HER OWN BUT IF NECESSARY KNOWS HOW TO ASK FOR HELP. “ – Anon Rebel Femme reader
“A WOMAN THAT KNOWS SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF HERSELF WITHOUT DEPENDING ON ANYONE. ASKING FOR HELP OR GETTING HELP IS MORE OF A CHOICE TO THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN, NOT A NEED. HENCE, IF YOU TAKE THAT “HELP” AWAY FROM HER, THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN WILL BE JUST FINE BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HOW TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF. “ – Anon Rebel Femme reader
“ SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN THEMSELVES. DOESN’T FEEL LIKE SHE NEEDS SOMEONE ELSE TO BE COMPLETE. SOMEONE WHO IS STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL. “ – Anon Rebel Femme reader
Based on our survey and research, being independent is all about being confident, knowing that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to and asking for help when you would need it.
Some of the things which may be holding you back from independence include:
1 ) NOT BEING CONFIDENT IN YOUR SKILLS AND ABILITIES
Confidence is key my friends!
2 ) DOUBTING EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE
When making important decisions, don’t keep doubting yourself! Every decision you make, no matter what the outcome may be, is you becoming more independent.
3 ) RELYING ON OTHERS FOR YOUR HAPPINESS
I do not believe that being in a relationship makes you less of an independent woman. However, if you start relying on others for your happiness you are being dependent on others for your mental well-being.
If you think about it, independency is a state of mind. If you believe that you are confident, strong, beautiful and can take care of yourself— you are already an independent woman.